The Magic Running Bond

February 25, 2013

On Saturday, I was reminded of yet another reason that running is amazing … dare I even say magical. Throughout our lives, we spend a lot of time trying to connect with others, to build relationships and to fit into our surroundings – from those days in high school yearning to hang with the “cool crowd” to the social dynamics of moving to a new neighborhood or finding your stride in the workplace or on the playground with your kids. We try to connect with others, all while not wanting to be judged.

But when it comes to running, all of that changes. You immediately have a connection with other runners – no matter your differences. The time it takes to build connections and relationships with neighbors, coworkers and others simply takes a single long run to accomplish with runners.

This thought occurred to me after my long(ish) run on Saturday. I joined an old friend and a new friend for a 10-mile run in Atlanta. One of the coolest things about sharing this blog with you is when I get to meet readers in person. An awesome runner who reads my blog recently moved back to Atlanta and reached out about running together. I invited her to join my friend and me on Saturday morning, and it was run at first sight. As we were having coffee together after the run (8:35 average pace with the last mile at 7:41 uphill), it dawned on me that running bridges all gaps.

Here we were: ages 26, 30 and 39. One of us engaged, one married with no kids, one married for 16+ years with 2 kids. Two of us who work full-time, one of us who manages her household full-time. Despite our different stages in life or what Monday through Friday looks like for each of us, when Saturday rolls around and it’s time to run, we are the same. Our differences blur together and we are a single, strong unit. We understand each other without having to say anything. We are bonded because we have a shared understanding – the struggle of a crappy weekday run, the desire to hit a stretch goal at our next race, the fear of trying to keep up on the hilliest part of the route, the wondering if what we ate that morning will stay put until we finish, the nagging pain in your leg. Two old friends ran and chatted with a new friend about everything – from the kind of underwear we do (or don’t) wear while running to stomach issues, bowel movements, periods, and the like. This was our first time meeting. Our first time running together. And the unspoken running bond worked its magic.

While running on Saturday, we ran into our friend who is a 65-year-old grandfather on the trail. He is in a completely different stage of his life, and yet the magical running bond is between us too. We are the same.

Running bridges all gaps. You are not defined by age, by time, by injury, by race, by pace. You are a runner, and therefore a friend. What else do you know that is as powerful as that?

Comments

Dacia

I have yet to feel this runners bond aside from with the people I ‘meet’ via blogging or twitter. In real life I haven’t had that experience while running. I have had it while cycling though. I am guessing that’s probably pretty similar of an experience.

rUnladylike

I’m glad you are experiencing that connection with your cycling friends, Dacia, and I hope you’ll feel that with your in-person running community soon. xo

Kat

So true! I love how it’s also therapeutic, so no matter our differences it’s a chance for us to vent, catch up, remember, laugh, and reconnect! 🙂

Kloe @ Running Shoes & Chocolate Mousse

I love love love this idea! I’ve never thought about it this way, but you’re totally right – running transcends all differences, and the only thing that matters is participating in the sport were all so passionate about. regardless of where we’ve come from, or even where we are now (as a runner or otherwise), running just creates this profound bond and connection.
it would be amazing if the rest of this world could be so non judgmental, positive and passionate!

Katie

Aw! I love this post! 🙂 You know, I never really thought about running like this since it was usually something I did alone or just with one partner. But I think you’re right – it is magical! Or at least it seems like that when you’re running with wonderful company – like I was! SO happy to have a new friend!

rUnladylike

Thanks for reaching out and running with us, Katie. It was wonderful to meet you and I look forward to keeping up that magic bond 🙂

D

Beautiful post. Now I just wish more of my friends would join me on a run!

Smitha FauxRunner

How beautiful and how true!

ps: Wish I could atleast hit those paces for intervals so I could dream of joining you sometimes.

rUnladylike

You will before you know it Smitha! And I would gladly join you at any pace, any time. xoxo

beka @ rebecca roams

Totally agree!! Running has brought many people in my life in the past year that I consider great buddies now!

rUnladylike

I hope one of these days I’m in Tampa I’ll get to meet and run with you, Beka! xo

Cecilia @ MommiesRun

Great post! I’m always amazed at all the different runners I see at races, and yet we are all runners. We have different body types, running styles, shoes, etc, yet we are all runners. I love it.

Lindsay

This is so true about running – for me with the blogging friends I’ve made and various runners I’ve met locally! As a kool-aid drinking cross-fitter, I must say something similar applies to those nutheads too – great sense of community (while suffering through burpees) 🙂

Tammy Campbell

Awww. What a great post! Totally agree! I had a blast!

Kelsie

I love your blog! I started mine about 2 months ago based on my goal of running a thousand miles this year.

Hope you check it out!
Runningathousandmiles.blogspot.com

rUnladylike

Congrats on starting your blog and for sharing it with me, Kelsie. I just popped by and look forward to following your journey. Happy running!

Jennifer

I love the relationships developed through running and the long-term friendships that would never be if not for the common thread of running.

Ashley

I absolutely love the runner head nod that you do when you are running opposite another runner on the street. It’s such a nice “good job keep going” in just .5 seconds.